Bhai-Behan Mein Comparison: Problem Aur Solution

byAnjali Bhojwani •
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Bhai-Behan Mein Comparison: Problem Aur Solution

Humne aksar dekha hai ki bhai-behan ya do behne aapas mein fight karte hain, ek-dusre se jealous hote hain, aur kai baar unke beech khattaas bani rehti hai. Iska ek bada reason hai bachpan se ghar aur society mein hone wali comparison. Yeh problem bahut common hai, lekin iska impact bahut serious ho sakta hai.



Samasya Ki Jadh: Bachpan Se Comparison

Bachpan se hi kai bachche comparison ka samna karte hain. Parents, relatives, ya society ke log aksar ek child ko “hoshiyaar” ya “achha” kehkar dusre child ko inferior feel karwate hain. “Kamzor” bachche ko baar-baar suna diya jata hai ki woh apne bhai-behan ki tarah kyun nahi hai.

Iska Asar:

  1. Kamzor bachcha self-doubt ka shikar ho jata hai aur hamesha apne aapko doosron se kam samajhne lagta hai.

  2. Uski self-esteem kharab ho jati hai.

  3. Doosri taraf, hoshiyaar bachcha apne aapko superior samajhne lagta hai, jo kai baar doosron ko neecha dikhane ka reason ban sakta hai.

Lambi Avdhi Ka Parinaam:

Jab yeh bachche bade hote hain, toh unke beech jealousy aur duri badhti jati hai. Kamzor bachche ko lagta hai ki uski mehnat aur achievements kabhi appreciate nahi hoti. Wahi, hoshiyaar bachcha jaane-anjaane apne bhai-behan ki feelings ko hurt kar sakta hai.

Isse parivaar mein:

  • Lagatar fights aur arguments hote hain.

  • Bhai-behan ke beech emotional duri badhti hai.

  • Parivaar ka environment negative ho jata hai.

Bachpan se agar ek hi ghar mein comparison hoti rahe, toh ek sibling dusre se door ho jata hai. Weak sibling ko hamesha inferior feel hota hai, aur smart sibling ko superior. Yeh chhoti si baat lagti hai, lekin iska impact life-long hota hai.

Agar weak sibling bada ho gaya hai aur ab bhi uske mind mein yeh chhoti-chhoti baatein impact daal rahi hain, toh uske liye kya solution ho sakte hain?

Problem:

  1. Low Confidence:
    Bachpan ki comparison ke wajah se uska confidence weak ho gaya hai. Usse lagta hai ki woh kabhi kisi standard par khara nahi utrega.

  2. Family Disconnect:
    Uska apne family members ke saath connection weak ho jata hai. Usse lagta hai ki uski feelings ki kabhi value nahi ki gayi.

  3. Self-Doubt:
    Woh apne decisions mein confident nahi hota aur har cheez mein apne aapko doubt karta hai.



Solution:

Agar yeh sibling ab bada ho gaya hai, toh uske liye yeh steps helpful ho sakte hain:

  1. Self-Awareness Develop Karein:
    Sabse pehle apne aapko samajhna zaroori hai. Apne strengths aur weaknesses accept karein aur apni unique qualities ko value karein.

  2. Therapy Ya Counseling Karein:
    Agar bachpan ke experiences aaj bhi effect kar rahe hain, toh therapist se consult karna bahut helpful hoga. Yeh apko apne emotions ko samajhne aur process karne ka mauka dega.

  3. Family Ke Saath Open Communication Karein:
    Apni family ke members ke saath honestly baat karein. Unko batayein ki kaise aapko feel hota tha aur ab kya changes chahiye.

  4. Boundaries Set Karein:
    Agar abhi bhi kisi tarah ki criticism ya comparison hoti hai, toh clearly boundaries set karein. Respectfully apna stand lein.

  5. Apne Hobbies Aur Goals Pe Focus Karein:
    Naye hobbies explore karein aur naye goals set karein. Apne personal growth par kaam karna shuru karein.

  6. Positive Support System Build Karein:
    Aise logon ke saath time spend karein jo aapko genuinely support karte hain aur appreciate karte hain.

  7. Forgiveness Practice Karein:
    Jo hua usko forgive karein, not for others, but for yourself. Yeh aapko emotional freedom dega aur aage badhne mein help karega.

  8. Small Achievements Ko Celebrate Karein:
    Apni chhoti-chhoti achievements ko appreciate karein. Yeh aapka confidence boost karega.

Ager aap Parent hai to aap bacche ki uniqeness ko celebrate karna chahiye usko har chiz ke liye support karke usko bahtar banane ki kosis karni chahiye, dono baccho ki achievement ko celebrate karna chahiye... sub bacche ek jaise nhi hote hai sub me alg alg talent hota hai to wo jo bhi kar rha hai shi disha de appricitae kare aur ye galti kabhi na kare ki aap apricitae dusre bacche ko kar  rahe hai aur expatation aap same kamjor bacche se kar rhe hai.

yadh rakhe bacche peda to ek jaise hi hote hai aap unko banate ho... shap dete ho.

Conclusion:

Comparison ka impact bahut gehra hota hai, lekin isse nikalna possible hai. Apne past ko accept karke, self-growth pe focus karke, aur ek healthy mindset develop karke, aap ek positive aur happy life jee sakte hain.

Family ke liye bhi yeh zaroori hai ki woh apne behavior ko samjhein aur ek supportive environment create karein. Jab tak family supportive nahi hoti, siblings ke beech healthy relationship develop hona mushkil hota hai.

Apne aap pe trust rakhein aur apne aage ki journey ko confidently explore karein. 😊


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